Kaen, someone who was shot can’t help but feel pain, because, you know, pain receptors and stuff. And depression is a clinically diagnosed disease, so there is no turning it off.
Confidence, however, is different. I went through most of high school not confident in myself, when in reality–with the athletic body I had and the charm of a prince–I should have gotten more pussy than the school quarterback. It took joining the military before I was confident enough to really engage with women on a man’s level.
Here’s the thing: I had the smarts, and the looks to sweep any girl off her feet. So why wasn’t I confident? …It was because I judged myself harshly. When I joined the military, my opinion about myself soared. I was doing what I loved, still young and healthy, and had a good social life.
I’m a much smarter, much better man overall now compared to high-school me. But I still feel like I had a lot to contribute to a relationship back then, and I just wish I knew that.
I don’t know how old you are, Kaen, but I know this: wisdom is hot, no matter your age. True wisdom is in knowing you know nothing. Don’t brag, don’t make rash decisions. Be a good person, and these things will help boost your confidence.
Then, find a girl you want to ask out, introduce yourself, and ask if she’s seeing anybody. If not, ask her out. If she laughs in your face and tells you to get lost, that’s HER loss, and frankly never deserved to be with you in the first place.
That is key- when a girl turns you down, you shouldn’t mope about it. That’s not attractive, and a sign that you aren’t mature enough for a serious relationship. Your self-worth shouldn’t be tied to whether the hot chick at the bar wants to suck your dick. There are a ton of people in the world, and at least ONE wants to date you…
But you’ll never find them by posting for dating advice on a Battle Dawn forum. XD